In my earlier seasons of life, I valued freedom. I would picture myself as this lone wolf howling at the moon. Ignoring the physical reality that wolves live in packs and would not easily survive life alone. I was in a blog discussion about Freedom and one of my responses was that Freedom is an illusion until you meet your limits. These limits can be voluntary or involuntary. In traveling this journey when I made a decision to become a wife and parent, they were voluntary decisions. I discovered an internal limit. I wanted to be a responsible,and good parent and wife. That meant leaving my selfish world and placing my child's needs ahead of my own needs. I could no longer be free. I could negotiate my freedom with my husband but I could not negotiate with my child.
In retrospect, when I look around my life I realize that all of us have Freedom....until. There are rules and consequences in life. The social norms that allow for a smooth social functioning give an individual freedom until that person breaks the rules. You could conceivably escape society by isolating your self on a island and just live in your "mind world" where you could be free to invent yourself anyway that you choose. You could envision yourself as an eagle flying high off the mountain top....wait..... if you exercise your freedom and fly off that mountain top you will fly.....until.....you hit the ground. You see there are even rules in nature....people are not birds and we can't fly like a bird.
So I have come to believe that Freedom is an illusion...until....we meet our limits.
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